¿Sabes lo que es la inteligencia emocional? ¿Sientes que estás dando un buen ejemplo a tu hijo/a?

La inteligencia emocional es la capacidad de comunicarse de manera efectiva, de solucionar problemas, reducir el estrés y empatizar con otros.

La inteligencia emocional se ha convertido en un fenómeno desde que Daniel Goleman publicara el Best Seller, Inteligencia Emocional, en 1995. Lo he leído y me ha ayudado a entender cómo ciertos patrones me estaban afectando negativamente. Para dar un mejor ejemplo a mi hija, he procurado mejorar mi inteligencia emocional.

Décadas de investigaciones confirman la importancia de enseñar a nuestros hijos a comprender y manejar sus emociones. Además, la inteligencia emocional es un factor importante para el futuro de nuestros hijos.

Las palabras y frases que usamos con nuestros hijos tienen un efecto contundente en su crecimiento emocional. Cuando nos impacientamos somos propensos a usar frases que no convienen.

Para ayudar a nuestros hijos a desarrollar la inteligencia emocional, los padres debemos aprender a comunicarnos de manera que no hiramos los sentimientos de nuestros hijos.

A continuación te enseño a reformular frases negativas en positivas.

Don’t say: Don’t say: «Stop shouting!»

Say instead: «Speak a bit more quietly, please»

Don’t say: «Don’t eat so fast!»

Say instead: «Remember to chew your food up well»

Don’t say: «It’s a total mess in here again...»

Say instead: «Clean up in here a little, please»

Don’t say: «Hurry up!»

Say instead: «It’s time to go now. Say goodbye!»

Don’t say: «Get back here!»

Say instead: «Come down from there, please»

Don’t say: «You’re going to hurt yourself!»

Say instead: «Be careful!»

Don’t say: «You’ll end up crying!»

Say instead: «Think about the consequences»

Don’t say: «You’ll slip and fall over!»

Say instead: «Watch your step!»

Don’t say: «You’re going to get soaked!»

Say instead: «Take the umbrella/put on your boots»

Don’t say: «Stop fussing!»

Say instead: «There’s still plenty of time»

Don’t say: «Don’t run!»

Say instead: «Walk slowly»

Don’t say: «Shut up!»

Say instead: «Listen to me, please»

Don’t say: «Get moving!»

Say instead: «It’s time to stop now, we have to go»

Don’t say: «How many times do I have to tell you?»

Say instead: «Please do what I asked you to»

Don’t say: «Are you dumb? Why don’t you understand!»

Say instead: «Calm down and let’s work this problem out together»

Don’t say: «Are you deaf?»

Say instead: «Listen to me, please»

Don’t say: «What are you, blind?»

Say instead: «Pay attention, please»

Don’t say: «You should be ashamed of yourself!»

Say instead: «Think about your behaviour»

Don’t say: «How dare you!»

Say instead: «We don’t talk like that in our family»

Don’t say: «I told you this would happen!»

Say instead: «You can learn a lesson from your mistakes»

Don’t say: «You’ll never do it!»

Say instead: «Try and see if you can do it»

Don’t say: «How should I know?»

Say instead: «Let’s think about it together»

Don’t say: «What are you talking about?»

Say instead: «Explain that to me one more time»

Don’t say: «You got it wrong!»

Say instead: «It’s great that you had that idea»

Don’t say: «I said no!»

Say instead: «Sorry but I won’t change my mind about this»

Don’t say: «Why? Because I said so!»

Say instead: «Because your parents took this decision»

Don’t say: «No sweets for you!»

Say instead: «You can have this later for dessert»

Don’t say: «If only you knew how sick I am of you!»

Say instead: «I don’t want to discuss this with you know, let´s talk about it later»

Don’t say: «Do you know what time it is!?»

Say instead: «It’s late. Time to go to bed»

Don’t say: «Don’t you think I’m tired as well?»

Say instead: «I know, we’re all tired»

Don’t say: «You’re going to get a smack in a moment!»

Say instead: «I’m so disappointed that I might say or do something I’ll later regret»

Don’t say: «Stop bothering me!»

Say instead: «Sorry, I’m busy right now»

Don’t say: «Are you crazy?»

Say instead: «Think about what you’re saying»

Don’t say: «That’s too expensive!»

Say instead: «We’re buying something else today»

Don’t say: «Turn off the TV right now!»

Say instead: «The TV has been used to much today»

Don’t say: «Go and do your homework!»

Say instead: «Do your work now and you can play later»

Don’t say: «I never behaved as badly as you when I was child»

Say instead: «You can make mistakes, but you have to learn from them»

Don’t say: «This never happened to me!»

Say instead: «I had a different childhood»

Don’t say: «Stop crying over nothing!»

Say instead: «Let’s think about how to deal with it together»

Don’t say: «Get a hold of yourself!»

Say instead: «I know this is important to you. Calm down and we’ll think about this together»

Don’t say: «Watch where you’re going!»

Say instead: «Be careful to watch your step»

Don’t say: «No one will be friends with you!»

Say instead: «Think about what this means for your friend»

Don’t say: «Don’t try to trick me!»

Say instead: «It’s very important to tell the truth.»

Don’t say: «You’ve got nothing to be proud of!»

Say instead: «Are you sure you should be proud of this?»

Don’t say: «Do you want to get sick?!»

Say instead: «If you get sick, you won’t be able to do anything fun»

Don’t say: «I’ll tell your father everything!»

Say instead: «I’ll have to tell your father everything. He won’t be pleased»

Don’t say: «You’re not as good as the other children»

Say instead: «I love you, but sometimes your behaviour upsets me»

Don’t say: «Why is it so hard for you to understand?»

Say instead: «Tell me what you don’t understand here»

Don’t say: «We’ll sort this out when we get home...»

Say instead: «I’m going to have to punish you for this later.»

Don’t say: «You ungrateful little thing!»

Say instead: «We really try to make you happy. There’s no need to get so upset»

Fuentes:brightside.me ihappymama.ru